Anger

Everyone experiences feelings of anger occasionally as it’s a natural human response. However, anger becomes a problem if cause harms to you or other people around you. The symptoms can vary from person to person, but usually, outbursts of anger become more regular and worse over time, resulting in the need for a solution.  

Detrimental problems associated with anger don’t just relate to physical acts of aggression. Equally harmful, are repeated inwardly focused negative thoughts of anger or outward expression which cause harm to you e.g., punching walls, doors, etc, causing yourself physical harm. How you generally behave when you are angry depends on your ability to control and assess increased feelings of anger, and frustration, when they arise within you. 

Unhelpful or destructive behaviours and expressions of anger to look out for/be aware of include :

Outward verbal and physical aggression or violence 

This includes shouting, swearing, being verbally abusive, and threatening people around you. Physically lashing out, either by throwing objects or being physically violent to another person. These are examples of outward aggression and represent the clearest examples of expressions of anger. 

Inward anger 

Inward anger is known as retroflection. 

You feel anger but do not know where to put it, how to process it, so what tends to happen is an individual just pushes it down into themselves cos that seems the instinctive thing to do. This has a detrimental effect on the body both mentally and physically. Retroflection ( meaning to do to ourselves what we would like to do to others) can cause many serious ailments and issues. Some sufferers constantly feel physically ill, constantly have colds, feel drained and of course mentally, depression is a direct biproduct. Directing your anger and frustration inwardly, you may have intense thoughts of hating yourself, which can lead to isolation from friends and family, and even put you at risk of deliberate self-harming or suicide. 

One solution to inward anger is counselling and therapy. Inward anger is something we try and resolve every day with our clients. 

It is prudent to develop coping strategies in regards to stress and anger management. Counselling and therapy are one option other positive ways forward are working the 12-step program, sport and exercise, meditation, alternative therapies and well-being classes such as art and creative writing.

Non-violent or passive aggression 

While this may not seem as extreme as other types of angry behaviour, passive-aggressive displays of anger can have consequences for your relationships, where ignoring people or refusing to speak to them or deliberately carrying out tasks at home or at work poorly, can have negative consequences affecting both yourself and the people around you. 

Passive aggression is associated with inward anger that an individual finds a way to channel other than keeping it to themselves. The individual literally uses passive-aggressive behaviour as a release valve. 

Everyone experiences feelings of anger occasionally as it’s a natural human response. However, anger becomes a problem if cause harms to you or other people around you. The symptoms can vary from person to person, but usually outburst of anger become more regular and worse over time, resulting in the need for a solution.  

Detrimental problems associated with anger don’t just relate to physical acts of aggression. Equally harmful, are repeated inwardly focused negative thoughts of anger or outward expression which cause harm to you e.g., punching walls, doors, etc, causing yourself physical harm. How you generally behave when you are angry depends on your ability to control & assess increased feelings of anger and frustration when they arise within you. 

Unhelpful or destructive behaviours and expressions of anger to look out for/be aware of include :

Outward verbal and physical aggression or violence 

This includes shouting, swearing, being verbally abusive and threatening towards people around you. Physically lashing out, either by throwing objects or being physically violent to another person. These are examples of outward aggression and represent the clearest examples of expressions of anger. 

Inward anger 

Inward anger is known as retroflection. 

You feel anger but do not know where to put it, how to process it, so what tends to happen is an individual just pushes it down into themselves cos that seems the instinctive thing to do. This has a detrimental effect on the body both mentally and physically. Retroflection can cause many serious ailments & issues. Some sufferers constantly feel physically ill, constantly have colds, feel drained and of course mentally Depression is a direct biproduct. Directing your anger and frustration inwardly, you may have intense thoughts of hating yourself, which can lead to isolation from friends and family, and even put you at risk of deliberate self-harming or suicide. 

The only solution to inward anger is counselling and therapy. Inward anger is something we try and resolve every day with our clients. 

Non-violent or passive aggression 

While this may not seem as extreme as other types of angry behaviour, passive aggressive displays of anger can have consequences for your relationships, where ignoring people or refusing to speak to them or deliberately carrying out tasks at home or at work poorly, can have negative consequences affecting both yourself and the people around you. 

Passive aggressive is associated with inward anger that an individual finds a way to channel other than to keep it with themselves. The individual literally uses passive-aggressive behaviour as a release valve. 

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